1. Be realistic
What do you think about your married life? Is it like a fairytale story and then they live in peace and tranquility, or are there fantasy fantasies like love-and-love all the time like Bengali cinema?
Do you dream of being a heroine or protagonist of a drama-novel-movie?
Or do you expect your spouse to behave as he does before marriage, as a lover / lover?
One of the major causes of unrest in marriage is this unrealistic, unrealistic expectation. Because when realistic expectations are not implemented in real life, they cause frustration and distress. It is now scientifically proven that the initial insanity of love is temporary. No matter who you marry, she will never be 5% perfect. Just don't worry about you all the time. To be happy you have to be so realistic. Successful couples find romanticism in everyday life, transforming the initial frenzy of love into a lasting affection.
2. Whom to marry
If you decide to get married just by looking at the outside, you will be wrong. For example, a young woman in the West might decide how handsome, tall, or has masculine qualities, or the amount of her wealth, etc. Again, a guardian of our orientation may be influenced by the degree of the vessel, the money or the pot abroad. Seeing a lot of things, one can be affected in many ways. But the fact is that marriage does not depend on whether happiness or happiness can be achieved. It may have been seen by the fact that the pot or granddaughter was chosen, in fact the social and cultural distinction between a selfish person or the nephew is so high that it is impossible to adapt.
Again we think love marriage may be happy. But if there is love before marriage, there is no such thing as a happy marriage. Because love is actually a garment name for the physical attraction of men and women.
What you need for a happy marriage is whether your spouse is a good man, honest, and generous. An ideal bridal relationship is created when both husband and wife share the same values and attitudes.
So before marriage, know everything possible about the man you want to marry. Contact those who can provide impartial and objective information about the crib. And if there is any doubt about the accuracy of the data, make your own decision by combining the information from multiple sources. Always keep in mind that whatever is in the rot. So if you get negative information without checking it and blowing it up, you can make a big mistake in one of the most important decisions in life. And of course don't even hide about yourself, which will lead to misunderstandings later.
3. You can't be happy with just the two
Without the blessing of a parent, your marriage can never be happier. No matter how much you disassociate with the parents' family, it affects you. Those who marry against the family go through a vacancy in their married life that never fails. This does not mean that you will have no role in the choice of spouse or that any decision will be imposed on you. Your choice of marriage should take precedence, with the unanimous approval and support of the two families.
4. Keep the wedding ceremony casual
In today's marriage, the formality and the cost of the cost is a casual matter. And the reason is that from childhood we grew up imagining a beautiful wedding. But whatever the glory of the wedding ceremony, its stability is only one day. Big week in some cultures in the East. However, in this momentous event, the couple may have to be burdened with a debt trap while overcoming competition. The result is financial, mental and spiritual turmoil. For a peaceful bridal life, keep the formalities of marriage as comfortable as possible.
5. Your life partner will not understand you, try to understand him first
One of the reasons for the problem in marriage is that we cannot accept the problem we ourselves are responsible for. We always think — I'm right, my spouse is wrong. Or think he is doing me wrong or I think he doesn't understand me. But we do not think that I can take the initiative to understand another.
One of the ways to overcome misunderstandings in a married life is to find your own mistakes and try to look at the other party's position. We can never expect that what I do not do, my spouse will do. When we assume that all wrongs belong to another, we also place the responsibility on them to eliminate misunderstandings. If we only thought that lack of understanding led to misunderstandings, then we would have taken initiative. No problem was a problem anymore.
6. Be proactive in your spouse's weaknesses and limitations
Like every man, your wife or husband will have some flaws or limitations. There will be aspects of his character that you may not like. How you handle these aspects will depend on how happy your married life will be. Keep in mind the following tips:
- Adopt a lifelong partner - including its weaknesses and limitations. Remember that empathy / love does not judge another person, but rather tries to understand him.
- Separate the person from his behavior. Focusing on his future prospects will be easier to accept given his present limitations than today's behavior.
- Only nurture good ideas for one another. Find out and appreciate the good qualities of the husband / wife. This will encourage him to overcome his limitations.
- Forget the past. Remember the past mistakes of the spouse. Save the current one.
- Never compare your spouse with another. Rather, compare his present position with the past and see how much progress he has made.
One of the causes of problems in the marriage. The problem is even more pronounced when the husband is either the head earner of the family and the wife is completely dependent on the husband for the finances. In these cases the problem arises if there is no balance between the husband's earnings and the expectations of the wife.
To avoid financial problems, consider the following:
- From the very beginning, give the spouse a real idea about your earnings. This reduces the chances of creating unrealistic expectations.
- Buy gifts for each other, even if small.
- If the spouse wants to help his family financially or does not give a gift, do not unduly hinder it.
- Don't waste your time by shopping around. Waste will bring bad luck into your life.
- If you (as a husband) are single-income in the family, say yes as often as possible in response to the financial needs of your spouse. Pay your wife money and do not inquire about how she spends that money.
- If your husband is the only person in the family who can earn a living, keep your expectations within reasonable limits. Don't ask for anything beyond his ability.
If you want success in family life as in other areas of life, you need to be mindful of your family. Sharing time with friends or spending time playing pool or playing pool in the family will be better for your future life. Remember, staying home and spending time with your family is two completely different things. When you're at home, talk to each other without watching TV, exchange ideas and suggestions. Leave time for the family, leaving office stress, trouble or tension in the office. Take part in housework with your wife if you have the chance.
9. Maintain spirituality about family
The basis of the relationship developed only on the basis of biological or external attraction becomes very weak. It is only when there is empathy and religious bonding about each other that the relationship is happy and lasting.
What does the biological entity think of us? And what can I give by teaching me to think of a spiritual entity? The general idea about married life is what I get. But the basic truth is: As we continue to pay, we will continue to receive as much as the rules of natural reimbursement. In our married life we can always think only if: What can I give to my partner, the result of it will surprise us. We can then look back at our partner, something we have not even considered before. We can also realize that the joy of giving something to someone rather than asking for something from the husband / wife is great. The unconditional love that creates relationships, cannot create such a demand-contract-authority relationship. So just go through it without expecting anything.
10. Understand when to leave
Whatever the effort, some marriages may not be sustainable. If the husband or wife is oppressive, he has a characteristic flaw that he does not agree with, but if he does not always act impatiently or is unfaithful to you, it is better to end such marriage. In such cases, make a firm decision before the baby arrives, hoping that he will change his personality and get better. In fact, there are some who never want to change. It is also important to remember that thinking about what I can give in marriage is not a matter of being weak or dependent. But if you have children, take time to think deeply about legal divorce.
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