I still remember that morning's conversation. I was surprised at how a Primary Pass woman, who was married before she got married to the world, turned her head around the 'corporate' of a university like me! He told me to stand on my own feet. And said honor is always to yourself - be it in front of the husband and the child. Unless I am given the opportunity, no one will strike me as "ablaze" or "spineless."
Yeah, I've already learned to stand on my own feet. But there was only sadh-ala-ar-auspiciousness. The husband will take care of me, I will rarely attend a kindergarten school with no accountability, goals and commitments. The duration of the period is not more than 3/2 years. I know many will cry out loud. Husband is unhappy to go to work, father-in-law knuckles nose, how much more! But as a girl, I know how true these allegations are and how much I try to cover my own disability! If I can continue to earn 'the next' in comfort, then what is the need for trouble finding rickshaws, file transfers and boss bush meals every morning?
Seeing my sister: There was a time when I went to Dhaka Varsity! My father used to say, "Your two 'sons' go!" My sister was also the father's 'little boy'! Saying 'was' because the once very independent, professional and 'revolutionary' sister is today only the mother of two children! Today, with the comfort of the housewife and the admiration of her husband, she is in such a state that her daughter comes to me to take 'career advice'! Since Mom has always been at home, growing food and talking to working people every day - they think their mother is ignorant of the outside world! Hey, the area where a lot of kids grew up eating the sweet food of his mom's results, his scholarship and job offers that were once an example to relatives - does he have any value to children?
And what about the boner? After so many years he regrets that he has no world of his own. Children are busy with their lives, husband's job is much larger today, the proportion of living at home has also decreased. Sometimes I see my sister coming to my office, wanting to hear about the office. I thought, coming to the house of forty, this was the consequence — isn't this a regret for many?
The wonder is that you can be very content with life only if you have a job or a career of your own. Let me talk about a few who joined me in the same batch: the number of women who were graduating or doing it at that time were counted in their hands. Remember, we were the only three girls in the class with 12 boys. Therefore, by face-to-face, everyone knew the result of a certain girl or a student of any department. So when such 'famous' students got on the job, at the age of 5/2 they have no further news! Why? Because in the afternoon they will leave earlier for 'security'. They will not be able to come again in the morning, because the husband and children will go to school, make breakfast and come. In addition, there are always office vacations in Jutzhamel.
Remember, a colleague was late because there were no work people; Then he had to explain to the working man all the time! And when the end of the month when the male colleague gets a promotion - what a shout to everyone - "I did not get promoted as a girl"! What to say now? It is not the company's fault that the career has not come, or is it negligent in his duty?
So what to leave the world? What career before family in life? No, not at all. One thing every day I think that to succeed in this male-dominated society, a girl has to work twice as hard. So when my colleagues were late for breakfast, I woke up an hour earlier in the morning to the kitchen. Because I slept less and lost my comfort, did not deviate from my job or took charge of my family. Yet there was not much I could do. The husband returned from office one day. Since I had not returned from office, I did not have a cup of tea that day. That mood shook me at night. It seemed like two things back, I shouted a little too. But I suffered a lot. Rather, the next morning I cooked an extra term so that my husband would be happy to get the pies at the breakfast table, knowing that I was sorry. Missed a boy's cricket match or daughter's exams because of the busyness of the office. So to make them happy, I watched a rock-song or action movie with my son on holiday, even with some serious headaches. Even with a tired, tired body, I smiled and poured oil on my daughter's head. So that they also understand, no, office - office, home - home, konota cost no less. Not to be ashamed to say that, without making a mistake, I said yes. And so, only because, the day I cried, neither my children nor the housekeeper said a second. They know, you understand, I don't lose patience.
How much trouble is this? Most of the girls fall behind for this laboriousness. Either they do nothing, or they are so happy with a little something that they forget to move forward. But don't forget I am against taking care of the house. If my mother had not been a 'housewife', it would not have been possible for me to come this far. But as a housewife, my mother was not 'abla'. The mother never sat down for her father when the call to the house was lost or the dirt in the courtyard. The man himself called and worked. The father is relieved that the guest will come, but the mother has sent someone and brought the grain, and at the end of the day, the father explained the cost. I used to say to Ragale, he never doubted that he would give an account before asking. And now Time is turning in the opposite direction! Today's 'highly educated' housewives see that when raw peppers are finished, cook without peppers because the husband does not mind to market! Isn't that dependence on the husband in the small business? Wearing an empty half-sleeved dress is modern? A divorcé, is it modern to have an intense night party or have hundreds of kids? Sitting in the hope of another while working outdoors - is that not a match for modernity?
I taught my children, especially my daughter, to take care of myself. And I said that everyone should respect your work, value your opinion; "You have come so far as a girl" - that Takma never seems to disappear; It burns more than respect. Today, Guruji is teaching everyone. Very nice when I see that Quantum girls are truly 'modern'. They are not just BBs of sajuguzu pots. What education, what work, what people to talk to - they are unique in everything. My husband jokingly gives an example, Quantum girls have spine! May Guruji's greatness succeed, I wish the girls to be truly independent in their thinking.
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